Dear readers, as the weather gets colder, its easy, almost natural even, to curl into yourself. as everyone seems to go into hibernation, its always good to remember the loved ones that surround you. & maybe, they need the reminder too,,,
that’s why i’ve decided to get us out of our antisocial slump with a list of december plans; fun dates for you to have with yourself, with friends, lovers (or both?). to sit in silence in the warmth of your house or to be out and up for adventure.
so get your calendars, re-download that social-media app you deleted in midst of your last crisis, and get ready to text first or bombard the group chat,,,
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1 - a night out is always a good idea. a little chaos never
hurt nobody, so call the girls and get your messy bag ready:
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Bike to your friends apartment, or even better host your pre-drinks at your place
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Music to listen to; i'd suggest you put some New Order on
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Take the wine and the messy make-up bags out, the bathroom always is where the cool stuff happens. Try your friends gowns, or just a pair of jeans and a T-Shirt.
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Tip: dress up with your most fabulous dress and wear NO make up at all or do the opposite; jeans and a t-shirt and do your hair in an extravagant way or wear that fancy lipstick
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Whatever happens on your way to the club is the adventure, wave a taxi and overwhelm the driver with your love life problems, laugh with friends, take the digital cameras out and snap pictures of EVERYTHING. you'll be grateful later
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In the club nothing matters anymore, for the adventure of it all was everything that happened before you stepped out your house!
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2 - sometimes you just need an afternoon running around the city
together with your best friend, always in sync.
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A plan: go out al vermut together, stroll around secondhand bookshops
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Vermut: drink vermouth + gildas or some tapas, order way too many until it's looks like a proper meal
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Take the city bike, stroll around secondhand bookshops until you find:
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THE BOOK: Master and Margarita! Hopefully by the end you’ll feel as unhinged and powerful as Margarita in that one scene (no spoiler for you, you'll have to get the book! The challenge here is to 1. find it and 2. get it for less than 5 euros
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Take the city bike down to a park, read your books in a book-picnic, talk about friends, dreams, lovers
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And if that wasn't enough and the spirits are still high, there's still time to go to the cinema, you’ll just have to agree on what movie (or, just go home and watch The Parent Trap, a twin classic)
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3 - if you’ve been flirting your way around the idea of meeting a
certain someone, this is your sign to get on with it.
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Don't take it too seriously, wear the simplest outfit that makes you feel sexy (Jane Birkin who?)
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Coffee dates are best, there's not as much pressure, you can really get to know the person first in a cozy environment. Who knows (or who cares) if you'll end up with a friend or a lover
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Go to an exhibition; photography expos are my favorite and around this time of the year there's always cool things going on
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Take your time and simply stroll around the city, it's a fantastic way to talk to strangers and to get to know the city and even improvise a plan if you feel comfortable and are in the mood of it
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And if you're enjoying the date, maybe end up in a KARAOKE (cringe with a stranger is free, take the pressure off yourself because you're fabulous)
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4 - an evening with yourself, for when the sun hits
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The plan: Turn down the lights, light some candles, put your phone away (!), and take a steaming hot bath
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A scent: Hinoki or Musk incense i've been loving
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A guided meditation for the bath: Jon Hopkins - Sit around the fire
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A comfort film: Petite maman by Celine Sciamma
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A drink; either red wine or tea, no in between. Or both
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Bathe your body in scents; creams, perfumes, fresh pyjamas and a clean set of laundry
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5- date out with yourself
just you, yourself, and a little time together.
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Pick something you've always loved doing. Do it by yourself, no phones allowed.
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Are you into photography? Grab your camera and go.
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Do you enjoy being social? Go by yourself inside a bar, order a beer, sit at the bar and talk to waiters. People have really interesting stories if you ask
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Do you enjoy reading? Get yourself the pleasure of reading a book by yourself at the terrace of a cafe
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Are you into theater? Go watch a avantgarde play some kids put up (it might be bad, but the experience will be worth it
Love and courage,
x
